In response to a diminishing number of requests, I'm pushing past whatever it is that has kept me from writing to post an update about Mom, starting where we left off.
As was my custom on weekends, I'd checked to make sure that Mom was sleeping comfortably before going out to the den to watch CBS Sunday Morning. I enjoyed the show, as always, and decided to spend a little more time watching TV and drinking coffee before going back to her room to see if she was awake. When I finally tore myself away from my comfy nest on the couch, I walked back to our room and found Mom curled up on the floor at the end of her bed, resting her head on the step that separates her part of the room from mine. She'd managed to pull a blanket over herself but was clearly, not surprisingly, distraught.
"I don't know. I'm not sure. I wanted to go out. Help me up. I don't like it here."
Any position seemed to be painful for her but I decided that getting her past it and into bed was the best course of action. I moved a padded foot stool close, rolled her onto her back, and had her try to sit up. Although it was painful, she gave it her best effort and I was able to lift her enough to get her on the stool, then into a standing position long enough to get her to grab the bars of her walker and take a few halting steps to her bed. I was very concerned but reluctant to call an ambulance if we could manage on our own. Past trips to the emergency room have left her so distraught and created so much pain for her, with uncomfortable exam tables and IVs and long waits, that I made the difficult decision to skip it unless she began to show clear signs of a catastrophic injury.
Once I got her settled under the covers she seemed to have forgotten that she'd fallen and was puzzled as to why she was in pain. She couldn't tell me what had happened, but it seemed clear that she'd been trying to get to the bathroom when she got out of bed and had walked in the wrong direction and fallen trying to maneuver up the step where I found her.
We called Mom's doctor, who agreed with Linda's suggestion that we get a hospital bed to make it easier to care for Mom during what we hoped would be a speedy recovery while realizing that being confined to bed can lead to severe complications. Mom's doctor made a surprise house call within a few days (bless her) to try to determine what, if any, injuries had been incurred. She understood my reluctance to take Mom to the emergency room and reassured me that even if they had diagnosed a broken hip, the usual treatment is bed rest, which Mom was getting at home. The doctor also did an evaluation of Mom's overall health and concluded that Mom's advanced age and congestive heart failure qualified her for Hospice care. That changed everything in terms of obtaining help for Mom.
The fall and subsequent changes in Mom's routine left her disoriented and exhausted for the first couple of weeks, to the extent that I felt we were facing a rapid decline in her health. I contacted family members to let them know that it might be wise to schedule visits sooner rather than later and to prepare for the likelihood of Mom's death. In retrospect, I realize that I may have been over reacting, but at the time my caution seemed justified.
The first to arrive was Mom's younger sister, Helen. Helen's daughter and son-in-law had driven her up from Stuttgart and Helen, thankfully, decided to stay for nearly a week. She was a tremendous help, both physically and emotionally and contributed to our well-being, in many ways, with her loving spirit and generous heart.
...to be continued...